DEPRESSION & TEENAGERS

As teens we go through a lot, we’re a lot more emotional and there will be a lot of bumpy roads ahead and there will be times where we will hit rock bottom and think that there’s no way out. There is always a way out.

I’ve been through many many struggles and it’s gotten to the point of self harming and also attempting to take my life. Fortunately, I’m still here. I’m so thankful that I am because I’ve met incredible people along the way and my life has gotten better compared to how it used to be. If you’re going through depression or self harm then, please know that you are LOVED & BEAUTIFUL! You don’t deserve to go through this pain. Just know it is temporary and things will get better. When I was depressed and I was self harming, I wanted to isolate myself and stay away from people but I knew doing that would make me feel a lot worse. I was bottling up so much and at that point I had to speak to someone. I did reach out to family and that’s including my church family too. I was speaking out to people who I trusted and felt comfortable around. Doing this lifted a lot of weight off my shoulders. Even though I was still hurting, I felt a lot more lighter and felt like I had nothing to hide anymore.

Also, I am a strong believer in Christ and praying daily and pouring my heart to him is something that helps me incredibly. Not only did things start getting better as time went on but I built such a close relationship with God and knowing that with him anything is possible is very reassuring. As I mentioned before, life will get better, you just have to have hope. There will of course be obstacles and things will try and bring you down but that’s how the devil works. We just need to stop backing away from God and remove whatever is blocking your way to chase God. He’s opening new doors for you, he has a plan for you (which is even quoted in the bible) “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” - Jeremiah 29:11.

So, this is what I have to say to anyone who may be going through a tough time and if you’re bottling your emotions up then, it’s best to speak out to someone you are comfortable with. I promise you, you will feel a lot more better because you’re finally letting everything out. Speaking to someone may sound lame but it’s so helpful. Another thing to do is distract yourself. You can chill with your mates, watch a movie, go shopping.. Just do something that will help take your mind off the negative thoughts. For me personally, hanging out with my mates helps take my mind off anything bad that might be going on. It’s because i’m surrounded with people I know who care and who I’m happy being around. That’s another thing, surround yourself with positive people, that’s key. It makes such a big difference.

It may seem like you’re getting nowhere in life and you’re giving up but God will open doors for you. You just need to pray about it and have faith. This feeling of hopelessness, loneliness, sadness etc will pass and you will find yourself walking on the right path again.

Talk to people, pray about it and try keep your head up! ♡

Lyds x

SELF LOVE

Do you ever feel like you aren’t good enough? Pretty enough? Worth enough? Listen.. I get how you feel. That’s how I’ve been feeling for most of my life but now, it’s time for a change. Why are we putting so much pressure on ourselves to please society?

I’ve always felt the need to impress other people so I can feel accepted but why am I doing it for them? I should really be thinking & caring about my own happiness, my own self. It’s hard to be growing up in a generation where you need to look a certain way. However, what’s most important is what’s on the inside (I know it sounds cheesy but it’s true). I feel like people are being blinded & are missing out on what true beauty is.

 As most of you may know, I’m insecure about how I physically look but I need to keep telling myself that I’m worth it & I’m good enough. If I keep bashing myself down then, what good is it going to do? I’ll just be stuck in the same mindset & cycle. That’s why I need to make a change on how I view myself. I need to start loving myself. All my flaws, all my imperfections. Cus guess what, they’re apart of me & I don’t need anyone’s approval on “what’s good” and “what’s not”.

 To be honest, if we’re going to make any progress & if we’re going to start loving ourselves for who we are then, we need to make the first step & stop putting ourselves down & comparing to others. Don’t get me wrong, it’s so easy to wish you had something that someone else has & there’s nothing wrong with being a bit envious (not in a hateful way). You know, it’s human nature to feel a little jealous but if you’re going to slam yourself down and keep saying “I’m not good enough, I’m so ugly, I wish I looked like him / her” then, that’s not okay! Stop worrying about the outside, what’s most important is the inside. If you’re healthy, happy & everything’s working properly then, you’re all good! It is hard & I know it’s going to take time to feel comfortable in your own skin but as long as you’re slowly starting to change the attitude towards yourself then, you’ll start making a progress & feeling a lot more confident in your body.

 I just wish people would stop being so discourteous with each other & pointing certain things out. Cus let’s be real, if people didn’t point out certain things that they think is “wrong” then, people would stop trying to alter themselves.

Overall, the message I’m trying to get across is that you are beautiful the way that you are and what’s on the inside matters most.

 One thing is changing yourself for you & another is changing yourself for others. Once you start changing yourself for others, you’ll never grow as a person. You’re basically living your life for them and not for you. We need to realise what’s more important, it’s our own selves. We just need to grow as people & learn to love ourselves more. Accept our flaws & live a life for us. Not for society.

 You don’t want to lose yourself in this whole world of beauty & the dumb standards that come with it.

 You’re all loved & beautiful. Remember that

Lyds x

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